Passionfruit’s Nightstand

Passionfruit is currently reading Lab Girl
Previously read and recommend…

Book Reviews:

The Indifferent Stars Above & Under a Flaming Sky by Daniel James Brown
If you love historical non-fiction, these are must reads! I for one didn’t know the emotional depth, grit and perseverance the emigrants and pioneers in 1846-47 possessed as they traveled west for a better life (this story focuses on the 87 people in the Donner Party).  ///  Under a Flaming Sky, Minnesota, 1894. The fire in Hinkley was literally the perfect fire storm of unfathomable proportions. At the time The U.S. Forest Service (established in 1905) only suppressed fires. It wasn’t until the 1960s that this was questioned. We should have listened to General Christopher Columbus Andrews. He worked to stir public sentiment for responsible logging and forest practices, but without much success until this Great Hinckley Fire… and it still took six decades. Science should never be ignored.

Promise me, dad by Joe Biden
This is what public service to the American people (and beyond) looks like, talks like, and walks like. 100%. 

The No. 1 Ladies’ Detective Agency (books 1, 2, 3) by Alexander McCall Smith
Easy breezy reading! Everything about this story from the cultural escape to the country of Botswana to the protagonist’s savvy business sense is delightful. You’ll fall in love Precious Ramotswe, owner of The No.1 Ladies’ Detective Agency. And if you can’t get enough, don’t fret, there are 18 books in the series. 

Child Free and Loving It by Nicki Defago
Refreshing read especially as more and more people ask me, “Do you have kids?”. If the conversation presses on I find myself explaining that I’m happily childfree, not interested, etc. This is a supportive read for those considering a childfree lifestyle, validating for those that already know and a grounding pick-me-up for those fatigued with a childcentered society (depending where you live). Having kids is a lifestyle choice, not a duty. It’s simply not for everyone

Your Inner Critic is a Big Jerk by Danielle Krysa
Quick, easy read to quiet that inner asshole voice that suppresses the creative juices from free-flow. 

The Nordic Theory of Everything, In Search of a Better Life by Anu Partanen
Refreshing and somewhat depressing after Hillbilly Elegy. There are countries that treat their people (rich, poor, single, married, with kids, no kids, sick and dying) all with the same respect and dignity. Mind blower!

“If you want the American dream,” Miliband quipped at the conference, “go to Finland.”

We as Americans often think our way is the way and worse yet, the only way to govern. It’s not. For example, why is USA’s health care linked to employers? Why don’t we offer National Health Care? Free education? Why do married people file taxes together? You will likely think differently about these topics after this read. The author also runs the numbers for the socialist nay-sayers. It works. America simply chooses to govern in a way that intentionally does not provide everyone the same footing and start in life. Everything we do is tied to a zip code, a job, a wallet, your parents wallet or your spouses, etc. We think we are SO free in America, yet we are tethered to more things-people-institutions than most first world countries. Kudos to the Nordic countries for their smart governing. It offers their people total freedom.

Hillbilly Elegy by J.D. Vance – A memoir
I’ve been struggling with what the next four year will be like under a president who is inept at human empathy, who discredits and bullies journalists, women and anyone who is marginalized. He doesn’t support science (aka facts), and staffs his office with wealthy, white businessmen. His resume is void of political, humanitarian and diplomacy work which is probably why he mirrors the governing styles of North Korea and Russia the most. I’m scared of this retrograde. But many people voted for him. People who have children. People who think this person is an acceptable role model. People who think they will be saved from despair. It’s chilling. Since I can’t understand “him”, I’m attempting to better understand those that voted for “him”. This book is a good start. We need to better understand one another to move ahead.

Animal Farm by George Orwell – A satire or as Orwell wanted to label it, “A Fairy Story”
I read this because Yeonmi Park (below) wrote this after escaping North Korea: “… it was discovering George Orwell’s Animal Farm that marked a real turning point for me. It was like finding a diamond in a mountain of sand.”  This book is a satire on the Russian revolution, published in 1945. The horrid parallels to North Korean’s dictatorship, power and greed are glaring.

The 7 commandments of “Animalism” (an allegory to communism):

Whatever goes upon two legs is an enemy. Whatever goes upon four legs, or has wings, is a friend. No animal shall wear clothes. No animal shall sleep in a bed. No animal shall drink alcohol. No animal shall kill any other animal. All animals are equal.

In Order to Live: A North Korean Girl’s Journey to Freedom 
by Yeonmi Park – Nonfiction

I  wish this story was not true, but it is and it’s happening today. This is the haunting and harrowing story of the author’s escape to freedom (at age 13) from North Korea. A place I knew was terrible, but had no idea just how so. North Korea is to many people who live there, a huge prison camp,  people are left to die on the street, starve to death and taught from day one that their ruler, the Kims, are the only gods and they must worship them. It’s hard to believe a place like this exists in this day and age. When a North Korean is able to attempt an escape, across the border to China, there’s the threat of human trafficking awaiting them. Women and young girls are raped and sold like bags of potatoes. China is a huge part of the problem. The Chinese government arrests and forcibly repatriates North Korean refugees. These refugees are fleeing one hell and entering another, all for a taste of freedom. 

“In North Korea, it’s not enough for the government to control where you go, what you learn, where you work, and what you say. They need to control you through your emotions, making you a slave to the state by destroying your individuality, and your ability to react to situations based on your own experience of the world.”

To all the Americans and our next president who want to ban any refugees from finding solace and freedom in AmericaRead this book and get a heart.

Until there’s a free North Korea, consider facilitating a human’s freedom this 2016 holiday via LiNK. 100% of donations fund rescues and refugee support. 


Quiet by Susan Cain – Nonfiction
This book was validating. For one, I am an introvert and desperately need my alone time, to be thoughtful and to recharge my human batteries. I’ve always felt this way, but never knew just how common is was for introverts to feel this. American and European cultures have a tendency to provide more comforts and perhaps even opportunities for extroverts. This book illuminates so many examples that begin in our primary school days all the way up to how offices are designed and suggests that the global financial crisis was due to forceful extroverts. Imagine if our culture could appreciate quiet people instead of thinking they need to “fix them”? What if our politicians were more introverted verses the current state of affairs and our with a soon-to-be elected fierce extrovert at the helm?  

“The study’s authors speculate that the decline in empathy is related to the prevalence of social media, reality TV, and “hyper-competitiveness.”  

This book isn’t a slam on extroverts in any way, as both sides must be acknowledged. There’s a beautiful relationship between extroverts and introverts that I personally could not live without. Many of my closest friends are extroverts and this book helped me understand this dynamic. The other reason I was drawn to this subject is Taiwan. I’ve observed that humans interact differently here and I like it. To my delight, Cain writes specifically on this subject. 

“East Asian classrooms, the traditional curriculum emphasizes listening, writing, reading, and memorization. Talking is simply not a focus, and is even discouraged.”


“The Americans emphasize sociability and prize those attributes that make for easy, cheerful association. The Chinese emphasize deeper attributes, focusing on moral virtues and achievement.”

I think everyone could glean from this book and come to appreciate (not fix) that perceived socially awkward person or child sitting alone, being quiet. Celebrate and nurture this. The planet could use more quiet.

The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle by Haruki Murakami – Fiction
This book was first mentioned to me, in person by Jay Rubin (who translated it from Japanese) some 20 years ago when I lived in Boston and I finally read it! It’s loaded with multiple story lines and characters. Some connect, some don’t… or do they? One never knows with Murakami! Loved May Kasahara, the alley, and the water well. I will never look at a water well quite the same now.

Gulp by Mary Roach – NonFiction
Fast and fascinating read! If Mary had taught my 9th grade health class, I’m sure I would have studied medicine instead of design. Three things: (1) Elvis did not die from a drug overdose. (2) Rats eat 45-100% of what they excrete every day. As do mice, swine and poultry. And if owners could get over the ick factor so would rabbits, guinea pigs and dogs. Why? To get the full absorption of critical minerals and vitamins via the small intestine. (3) Mütter Museum – OMG! How have I not been here yet?

IQ84 by Haruki Murakami – Fiction
After three library loans, I finally finished this sucker. Despite my lack of plowing through in one swoop, I loved this story and all the characters. I won’t spoil it, but the protagonist is one cool and mysterious chick. As with his other books, you always get schooled in music with Murakami. The book begins with this song, playing in a taxi: Janáček’s Sinfonietta.

What I Talk About When I Talk About Running by Haruki Murakami – A memoir
I was hooked on Murakami after reading Kafta on the Shore. He’s a prolific writer so there are no shortages of his books to read. I picked this one because the title was intriguing and memoirs aren’t his typical gig.  It surprised me because it’s more personal than I expected, as if he’s chatting with you at a cafe about his thoughts on running and writing and how they’re so connected for him. I was inspired to run more while reading this, something I hope sticks because it’s a welcome break from all the cycling. I was also pleasantly transported back to my years living in Boston (1998-2006), as the author lived there as well (and Japan at times). I never knowingly crossed paths with him, but I did find myself stuck at the airport late at night without a ride. A kind, older gentleman offered me a ride and it turned out to be Jay Rubin who is most well known for translating Murakami’s books from Japanese to English (I didn’t know this at the time). He has his PH. D in Japanese Literature and worked at Harvard University until 2008. I remember he spoke of his work on The Wind-Up Bird Chronicles, which I still haven’t read. Ah, human connections. It’s all synchronicity, baby.

Kafta on the Shore 
by Haruki Murakami – Fiction
My mom has been recommending Murakami to me for years. It wasn’t until I moved here that I got the Murakami bug. I was sharing some of my new Taiwan experiences with my mom and she said, “It sounds like you’re in a Murakami novel”. I was intrigued by this so I ordered up Murakami on my Kindle right away. This was the beginning of my Murakami book bender.

Dreaming in Chinese
by Deborah Fallows – Nonfiction

A good friend from Portland gifted me this book before we moved to Taiwan. I read it on the flight over. It’s an easy and enjoyable read. Culturally, it transported me to my soon to be new life. I also learned some Mandarin. If you’re planning on spending time in Asia, definitely read this. Thank you, Kerry!



How do we access books living abroad?

In Taiwan, bookstores are plentiful and there’s a modern public library within biking distance, but the English selections are often limited, therefor we access digital books through our public library membership in Portland, Oregon and download the majority of books to our Kindles. If you have a membership to any public library (and a Kindle or iPad), you too can do this. It’s a reading lifeline while living overseas. We’re grateful that public libraries offer e-books to check out!

In addition, we have the Taipei Times newspaper (in English) delivered to our apartment every morning and just like back home, a stack of New Yorkers piling up, begging to be read.


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  1. You’re amazing, my Dear. So glad you didn’t get the stolid Norwegian, introvert gene. But, thinking about Grandma Mary and all her sisters, it doesn’t seem to run in the female line.

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